Welcome back to another installment of Menopause Mondays®, where we tackle the trials, tribulations, and, dare I say, titillations of menopause. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s bound to make you blush, giggle, or perhaps nod in enthusiastic agreement: the surprising benefits of masturbation during menopause. So, grab a cup of tea or coffee (or a fan if those hot flashes kick in), and let’s get intimate with the facts.
A recent survey of 1,500 women aged 40-65 conducted by Womanizer in partnership with the Kinsey Institute sought to understand more about menopause, its impact on sex and pleasure, and useful remedies to combat menopause symptoms. Here is what they found out – wait for it: Masturbation and sex were rated among the most effective methods for menopause symptom management. The other bad news is that only 44% of women discuss menopause with a healthcare professional.
The Menopause Maze: More Than Just Hot Flashes
Menopause—a word that often conjures images of women fanning themselves furiously, shedding layers of clothing, and experiencing mood swings that could rival a teenager’s. While hot flashes are the poster child of menopause symptoms, the reality is a veritable buffet of bodily changes. Think night sweats, vaginal dryness, sleep disturbances, and a libido that might be playing hide and seek. It’s as if our bodies decided to throw a decade-long party without our consent.
But before you resign yourself to a life of discomfort and endless layers of moisture-wicking fabric, let’s explore a natural, enjoyable remedy that’s literally at your fingertips.
Masturbation: Your Menopause Sidekick
Yes, you read that right. Masturbation isn’t just for the curious teenager or the lonely singleton. It’s a powerful tool for women navigating the choppy waters of menopause. Here’s how a little self-love can make a big difference:
- Hormonal Harmony: Engaging in solo play releases a cocktail of feel-good hormones—endorphins, oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. These natural chemicals can alleviate headaches, reduce anxiety, combat depression, and even improve sleep. It’s like your body’s own prescription, minus the pharmacy trip.
- Pelvic Power: Regular orgasms strengthen pelvic floor muscles, which can counteract some of the weakening that occurs during menopause. A strong pelvic floor means better bladder control and enhanced sexual pleasure. Talk about a win-win!
- Moisture Maintenance: Vaginal dryness is a common menopausal complaint. Arousal increases blood flow to the genital area, promoting natural lubrication and maintaining tissue elasticity. Regular masturbation can keep things supple and ready for action, whether solo or partnered.
- Libido Lifeline: Use it or lose it, they say. Regular sexual activity, even solo, can help maintain sexual desire and responsiveness. It’s like keeping the engine running so it’s ready to roar when you are.
Making Masturbation Magnificent
If it’s been a while since you had a date with yourself, or if you’re looking to spice things up, here are some tips to enhance your solo sessions:
- Set the Mood: Create a relaxing environment. Think soft lighting, your favorite music, or even a scented candle. This isn’t a rushed rendezvous; it’s quality time with yourself.
- Explore and Experiment: Your body is a landscape of pleasure zones waiting to be discovered. Try different types of touch, pressure, and rhythms. What worked in your 20s might not do the trick now, and that’s perfectly normal.
- Lubricate Liberally: Lubricants can enhance sensation and make everything glide smoothly. Opt for high-quality, body-safe lubes, and don’t be shy about using them generously.
- Incorporate Toys: Vibrators and other sex toys can add a new dimension to your pleasure. They’re not replacements but enhancements, offering different sensations that your hands alone might not provide.
The Inside Scoop: Vibrators Women Swear By
You know how we all have that one friend who is up on the latest tea when it comes to ahem personal pleasure? Well, I contacted mine. She’s postmenopausal and was thrilled to tell me her ultimate recommendation: the Original Womanizer (the web agrees on this-see below). It comes in fun colors, and as she puts it, “It is by far the best.” Here is the link: Original Womanizer
Of course, I had to get the perspective of a couple of perimenopausal friends, too. Here are their two top picks.
- The OG Sucking Vibrator by Tracy’s Dog (yes, that’s the brand name—I checked twice! Here is the link: OG Sucking Vibrator by Tracy’s Dog
- The other vibrator is made by Maude (the web agrees on this-see below). They have several different designs. These vibrators look like works of art, but I don’t recommend displaying them on your coffee table. Here is the link: Maude
And then I thought… why not ask all of YOU?
So I ran a quick survey asking, “Which pleasure product has best helped your menopause symptoms?” And let’s just say, you didn’t hold back. Here’s how the buzz broke down:
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Suction-style vibrators (like the Womanizer) were the crowd favorite, with 55.6% of respondents saying they brought the most relief—and the most joy.
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Sleek, stylish designs (think Maude) came in second with 16.7%, proving aesthetics and pleasure go hand-in-hand.
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The classic wand style (hello again, Magic Wand!) vibed with 11.1% of you.
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Rabbit-style toys? Zero percent. Sorry, Bugs.
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And 16.7% of you admitted you haven’t tried any yet. (No judgment. But consider this your official permission slip to explore.)
Here is a handful (wink-wink) of recommendations, according to Women’s Health Magazine that have been tested and reviewed by sex experts. (that’s a fun job!) :
- Best Overall Vibrator: Lelo Enigma Double Sonic
- Best Budget Vibrator: Maude Vibe
- Best Rabbit Vibrator: We-Vibe Nova 2
- Best Wand Vibrator: Magic Wand Rechargeable
- Best Suction Vibrator: Womanizer Premium 2
- Best G-Spot Vibrator: Lelo Gigi 3
- Best Wearable Vibrator: Dame Eva
Communicate and Celebrate
If you have a partner, sharing your solo discoveries can lead to more fulfilling partnered experiences. Communication is key. Discuss what feels good and what doesn’t, and be open to exploring together. Remember, your pleasure is a journey, not a destination.
Embrace the Change
Menopause is not a sentence to a pleasureless existence. Embracing self-pleasure during this time can lead to better physical health, improved mood, and a deeper connection with your body. So, here’s to making menopause not just manageable but downright magnificent. Happy exploring!
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Note: Always choose body-safe materials when selecting sex toys, and consult with a healthcare professional if you have any concerns about sexual activity during menopause.
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