Last week, my husband reminded me it was time for my car’s regularly scheduled tune up. The brake lining, fluid levels, tire alignment, balancing—it all needed to be checked out.
For both David and me, maintaining safe, well-running cars is a huge priority. After all, we spend a tremendous amount of time in those cars, commuting to work, meetings, family gatherings, and just running errands. Then it hit me (a question, not a car!): why are so many of us incredibly organized and attentive when it comes to the wellbeing of our cars, but not when it comes to the wellbeing of our primary vehicles (the bodies that we ride around in 24/7)?!?!
If our cars groan, sputter, or smoke, we take them into the mechanic without a second of hesitation, but when our bodies are flashing, flushing, overheating, and experiencing many of the more than 30 symptoms of perimenopause and menopause, we far too often suffer in silence! Many women, even if undergoing hormone replacement therapy, don’t get rechecked when they find themselves experiencing old or new symptoms. Just like our cars need adjustments from time to time, so do our hormones and healthcare.
Our cars have all kinds of flashing, blinking, chirping alarms for a reason: to tell us to attend to their needs. Our bodies are built with alarms, too. When we don’t feel right, it’s our bodies’ dashboards telling us that something is wrong. So why don’t we pay attention to them? Why do we wait until we find ourselves on the equivalent of a highway shoulder? When it comes to caring for our perimenopause and menopause symptoms, we all too often wait for a crisis to hit us before attending to them. It’s as if we had been waiting for AAA to come and give us a menopausal tow into the nearest garage! (Bad visual, right?)
It’s time for some preventative care—a tune up, if you will. Preventative care is the true foundation of living and being well. Every 10,000 miles or so, we take our cars in for a looksee from our friendly mechanic. The same should be true for our bodies. Why check the lining of our brakes, but not the lining of our vaginas?
It’s way too common for women to not check their estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and other hormone levels. We need to do this in order to make sure that all of our “equipment” is working well. We would never think of driving with anything less than a well-oiled engine and plenty of fuel, but when was the last time you asked your gynecologist to screen you for vaginal atrophy? Is your vagina lubricating and running right? If not, your health, sex life, enjoyment, and romantic relationships can suffer.
Here are my five steps to getting on the road to hormone happiness:
1. Listen to Your Body. Listening to our bodies’ dashboards is the first and most important step in our bodies riding smoothly during perimenopause and menopause. Until you pay attention to those flashing lights, you can’t do anything about them.
2. Find a Menopause Specialist. Gynos are great, but they often aren’t trained in the specifics of perimenopause and menopause tune ups. To find a specialist near you, consult my Menopause Specialist Directory, get a referral from your primary care physician, or ask the women in your life who’s guiding them toward hormone happiness.
3. Chart Your Menopause Symptoms. To help track your symptoms, sign up for my free Menopause Mondays Blog and Health News Flash to download my Menopause Symptoms Chart. Each day, chart the frequency, duration, and severity of your perimenopause and menopause symptoms and take this chart in with you to your appointment with your menopause specialist.
4. Know Your Numbers. Ask your menopause specialist about receiving a complete blood workup, including a hormone panel. The proper testing together with your completed Menopause Symptoms Chart will enable your specialist to create an individualized program just for you. There are lots of numbers involved, but don’t worry, no algebra needed!
5. Stay on the Path. Remember, one tune up is not enough. Constantly listen to your body, monitor your symptoms, and maintain an open dialogue with your menopause specialist.
As we get our cars all ready to roll, let’s remind ourselves to put our own personal health needs on our tune-up list. After all, without that our bodies can’t properly take us where we want and need to go. So turn up your car’s volume and heed the wise words of the Beatles…
Baby you can drive my car
Yes I’m gonna be a star
Baby you can dive my car
And maybe I’ll love you
Suffering in silence is OUT! Reaching out is IN!
4 thoughts on “Menopause Mondays: It’s Time for a Menopause Tune Up”
I would just like to say thank you for your website.I wanted to ask your opinion i have just recently started taking Magnesium,Vitamin D and Calcium of a night and separate tablets and my Hot Flushes have disappeared i didn’t make the connection for about a week after talking to a girlfriend, so just wondering you take on it.
I take all three of those!
Hi Ellen. What a great point to remember that we need to take as good (OR BETTER) care of our health than we do our cars and/or other personal items. Far too many women I know would never let their house or their kids get messy or sloppy but avoid putting their own health first. You are so correct to remind us to have regular check ups and pay attention to what is going on with our health. Thanks!
Thanks for your comments, Kathy. Often, the sisterhood is so busy taking care of others – we forget to take care of ourselves.