FREE New eBook on Menopause Coming Soon!

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Before I tell you all about this fabulous new eBook I’m releasing -for FREE– I want to take a moment to reflect on what the Menopause Mondays blog, and all my work in educating women and men on perimenopause and menopause, has meant to me, and to thank YOU for everything you’ve given me.

As I walked down the stairs to my computer this morning, I began reminiscing about these past years of writing and blogging about perimenopause and menopause.

My morning usually begins at 7AM.  I love the quiet of the house and the sunlight peaking in as I raise the blinds. I yearn for my morning coffee, but these days it is a few steps behind my probiotic (who knew we need to balance the good and bad bacteria?!!) and a large glass of ice water.

I try to do my morning 20-minute meditation, but frankly my need to check my emails resulting from my weekly blog posts usually wins out.  What if someone is suffering in another time zone? I don’t want them to wait too long to get support.  I remember how alone I felt when my perimenopausal symptoms were running my life. More like ruining my life.

Some of the emails contain just one line: “Help, I am depressed!” or “I can’t sleep anymore. Am I in perimenopause?” Others are very long journals of very trying, difficult emotional highs and lows, severe depression, insomnia, or shockingly severe issues with sex and libido that are causing marriages to fall apart.

Most of the time, I can direct people to the various blogs in which I interview specialists on the topic to help answer their questions. But, sometimes I just know that they need to talk to someone who cares.  So, I send them my cell phone number.  Then immediately my cell phone rings.

I know that just being able to verbalize what is bothering you can be very calming.  Funny, though, as I speak to women from all over the world, I find my way back to my own inner peace.  Each and every time, I hang up the phone with a full heart and a smile on my face. Helping others seems to be very healing and nourishing to me. When I started out, I had no idea this would happen.

When I have a spare moment, I try to follow up with everyone who has contacted me to see how they are doing.

My follow-up emails are sometimes frustrating, as some women try so hard to be “fine” that they may not take the steps needed to feel better.  For example, I may have called a menopause specialist in NYC to squeeze in a patient who was truly at her wits’ end, only to find out she cancelled the appointment! I don’t give up. Instead, I keep nagging until they go to the specialist! I know my role is to be their health advocate until they learn to advocate for themselves.  I take my role seriously.

There are days when David has to peel my butt off of my chair to eat lunch or dinner or get on my bike!  Thank goodness he does!  Otherwise, I might be completely glued to my chair by now.

My husband and children have consistently rallied around me, encouraging me and pushing me to continue on my mission, even when I had self-doubts and frustrations.  I know it’s a bit cheesy, but I like cheese!  They truly are the wind beneath my wings. I love it that my husband and children are proud of me. They have no idea how much that means to me.

When I allow myself to step back and review my journey, and let go of my Virgo-ism and the self-critical chatter that harps on the things that I could have done better, I truly feel I have accomplished something that I am proud of. I have helped lots of women and the people who love them.  This is the most rewarding thing of all.

My whole being is so wrapped around this mission that I seem to know when someone needs help no matter where I am: on an airplane, at the grocery check-out line, in the carwash waiting room, or at a social event. I zero in on the women who are suffering in silence. David has nicknamed me the “Vagina Whisperer.”  He gets that look that says, “And…there she goes!”  As I try to engage with the woman, he watches with pride and great patience.

It’s shocking that while there are ever increasing numbers of women in the workplace, in corporate executive positions, and other vital roles in our society, so many women are still suffering in silence.  My mission is to replace the confusion and embarrassment about the symptoms millions of women go through before, during, and after menopause with medically sound solutions presented with lots of love and laughter.

So in that spirit, I will be releasing a new eBook, available for FREE to all women and the people who love them.  The book will be an amalgamation of what I’ve learned from interviewing experts, from my own experiences, and from the personal stories that the sisterhood has shared with me. The book will be called, MENOPAUSE MONDAYS The Girlfriend’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving During Perimenopause and Menopause. The eBook format will allow me to periodically do updates with the latest studies and information.  In that sense, it will be a living text that grows as we grow.

That’s why we’re here.  So we can grow together.

As I work on this eBook, you may be hearing from me more sporadically. I have re-organized EllenDolgen.com and updated our blog information, making it even easier for you to find the answers you need. Think of EllenDolgen.com as a resource library. You can easily access my Menopause Symptoms Chart, Menopause Specialist Directory, Blogs, Health News Flashes, Top Symptoms, and FAQs.  As we go through this new chapter together, please continue to communicate with me directly at ellendolgen@ellendolgen.com.

Your energy and appreciation has empowered and motivated me to continue our good work together and elevate Menopause Mondays into the next chapter of its life: MENOPAUSE MONDAYS The Girlfriend’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving During Perimenopause and Menopause.

Stay tuned!

After struggling with her own severe menopause symptoms and doing years of research, Ellen resolved to share what she learned from experts and her own trial and error. Her goal was to replace the confusion, embarrassment, and symptoms millions of women go through–before, during, and after menopause–with the medically sound solutions she discovered. Her passion to become a “sister” and confidant to all women fueled Ellen’s first book, Shmirshky: the pursuit of hormone happiness. As a result of the overwhelming response from her burgeoning audiences and followers’ requests for empowering information they could trust, Ellen’s weekly blog, Menopause MondaysTM, was born.

  • Lisa F

    Can’t wait to read it! Bring it on!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Lisa, I am excited to offer it for FREE. I want everyone to have the opportunity to receive the support they need and deserve!!!

    • Ronnie

      Ellen,
      I love the way you write. You make menopause easy and honest. I Enjoy reading your blog and find the information helpful.
      I definitely want to read your new book!
      Ronnie

      • Ellen Dolgen

        Thanks Ronnie! I am so happy that you find my writing easy and honest. I would take a selfie right now of my big smile, but I don’t know how to add post it on the blog! So instead here are my smiles :>))))))))))))))

  • Debra

    Hello my dear sister, I can’t wait for your new eBook… I share your uplifting spirit with others sister of this life changing episode!

    Hugs to you!!!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Debra! I am excited!

  • Andrea

    Congratulations, Ellen! Wish you all the best and good luck! I love to see women that pursue their dreams. It is so inspiring! Thanks a lot!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Me too, Andrea. That is one of the reasons I am offering the book for free! I want to be sure women don’t suffer in silence and lose their ability to function and pursue their dreams!

  • Christine

    Thank you so much! I can’t wait to read it!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks Christine! I can’t wait to finish it and have it available! Stay tuned!!

  • Ellen

    This is so exciting! I cannot wait to read it.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Ellen. I am excited about the new book. There should be no financial barriers between women and the information they need for their health. There are more and more women in the workplace in vital roles. I thought this free eBook would truly help to make this information accessible to all women so that they can continue remain healthy and able to continue fulfilling their personal goals and dreams.

  • Jeanet

    A “Hello” from the Netherlands. Was reading this just before I’m heading for my bed and most likely another night with short intervals of sleep and lots of restlesness, plenty of sweat, anxiety attacks with some nightmares to top it of.
    In a way I feel comforted that something, (i.e. your e-book), is on it’s way that I can cling on to when things are realy getting rough. So, can’t wait ’till it arrives.
    Hugs from Holland, Jeanet.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Jeanet, I am so sorry you are sleepless and sweaty in Holland! Are you seeing a menopause specialist? You can downloand my Menopause Symptoms Chart. Start charting your symptoms before bed each night. Take this chart in with you to your specialist. It will help you communicate, clearly and quickly exactly how you have been feeling. Together with some bloodwork your specialist can develop an individualized plan for you. Your options range from hormone therapy to many non-hormonal options. If you want to go the non-hormonal option, here in the US many women are finding Remifemin to be very helpful. I recently did a blog on Breast Cancer and Menopause where I interviewed two top doctors from the Yale Cancer Center. They highly recomend this product to their patients. You can read the blog here. Good Luck and keep me posted on how you are doing! The book will be out soon!

  • Zoe

    Thank you! I am really looking forward to reading your new book and sharing with all my friends! Finding you has been so helpful in my journey through peri menopause.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Zoe, I can’t tell you how meaningful your words are to me. Thank you so much!

  • Quinn Fforde

    This is excellent news! Thank you so much!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Blogging weekly these past years, I have been able to reach women all over the world! It was so unexpected to receive emails from Japan, Paris, Holland, etc. That is what is so wonderful about social media. When it comes to perimenopause and menopause – we all speak the same language! I am hopeful that this free eBook will help to make the information easy to understand and accessable to all! Thanks, Quinn, for your sweet support!

  • Laurie Black

    I cannot wait for this. Your blogs, advice and book have been instrumental in my well being as a post menopausal widow learning to date again. I am so grateful for all your work on behalf of those of us who NEED ELLEN!!!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh Laurie, thank you! I am so happy that I have been helpful. This mission and working on this new eBook makes me feel alive, excited,and purposeful! No women needs to suffer in silence. Thanks for your continued support!

  • Ellen C

    Thank you for helping me realize I am not alone and that the things I am going through are “normal.” I can’t wait to read your new eBook. Thanks for talking honestly about menopause. It is so refreshing to know we do not have to suffer in silence.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      When I hit perimenopause in my mid 40’s, I was totally unprepared! Suddenly without any warning in the middle of a business meeting, I could not finish my train of thought or my sentence. I experienced brain fog so severe that I thought I was in the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease. Like most women, I tried to shrug it off as a fluke. Maybe I was tired, maybe I was not concentrating enough, maybe I didn’t have enough sleep last night……you name it. I had every excuse in the book as my desire to be “fine” was so overriding. It wasn’t a fluke. This brain fog continued to happen all throughout the day. I started to shrink back in the meetings and even when we were out socially. I started losing my voice – losing me. I had no idea this was a symptom of perimenopause! After lots of research and sleepless nights, I realized I was in perimenopause! I learned that there were over 30 symptoms of menopause. Who knew???? I was furious no one educated me about this. That when it became my mission to help make sure that other women do not feel alone and needlessly suffer. Thank YOU, Ellen C. for letting me know that the information has helped you in your journey. This new free eBook will help ensure that ALL women have access to the knowledge they need to take charge of their health and happiness.

  • Jeanne Zimmerman

    Hello Ellen. I wanted to tell you about how wonderful your website is and how excited I am about your upcoming e book. I have finished menopause and wish I had your guidance and helpful advice when I went through it. To all you wonderful ladies out there, take care of yourself, get advice and help and know that it will get better. Now that my life has smoothed out, I can relax and once again enjoy my days fully. Take care.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Jeanne, it is up to us to help educate the next generation! Thanks for your wise words! When the new FREE eBook is out, I know that I can count on you to help me spread the word!

  • How exciting and what a worthy endeavor, Ellen!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Carol, for your sweet support. I know I can count on you to help me share this fee eBook with the sisterhood.

  • Mazel tov on the new book! You continue to be a force for good in this world.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Roz. This new eBook will enable me to reach so many more people with valuable information and tools. I am jazzed about this! Thank you for your continued support in helping to spread the info!

  • Love all that you do, Ellen! You are truly the voice for those of us navigating this time in our life.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Linda. I am hoping the next generation will be more prepared than I was!!!

  • It is very touching to read and feel your passion for helping women. It is inspiring, Ellen. I think your readers are lucky to have you as a resource, especially during what can be a confusing and vulnerable time. Congrats on your book– can’t wait to read!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks for your sweet words, Lisa. I am energized and excited to make this info available to everyone who needs it!

  • This is so great, Ellen. Can’t wait to read your book and share it. You do so much to help and empower women.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks, Lois. I am excited to share this updated info with the sisterhood.

  • what a gift you have that’s turned out to be such a gift to so many other women. I’m not in menopause yet and hadn’t ever thought much about it til I started reading your posts. Now I’m blessed to have this great resource and your warm encouragement available when the symptoms start.

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thanks for your sweet comments, Angela. I am hopeful that this info will help you be prepared for perimenopause and menopause so that you can be proactive about your health instead of reactive.

  • linda

    Hi Ellen:) so looking forward to your new ebook! Your generosity helped save my life! Not exaggerating; Like so many women,I felt alone. But your encouragement and endless info continues to bless me♡ thankyou:)!!!

    • Ellen Dolgen

      Thank you for your sweet words, Linda. Here’s to a Happy, Healthy 2015!!!!