Menopause Mondays: 10 Reasons I’m Thankful for Menopause

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Menopause Mondays

Ready or not, the holidays are here! Thanksgiving and Hanukah are both just days away, and it’s T-minus one month until Santa Clause comes to town.

It’s the season to count—and give thanks—for the many blessings in our lives. I’m thankful for my husband, David, my children Jack and Sarah, and her new husband and my new son, Sol. I’m thankful for my awe-inspiring and strong female friends. I’m thankful for the opportunity to empower women across the country to take their health into their own hands. I’m thankful for menopause!

Sure, when I entered perimenopause, I never thought I’d say that. Like many women, when I entered perimenopause, I was irritable, uncomfortable, spacey, and sleepless. Something was changing inside of me, but I didn’t know much of anything about “the change,” so I had no idea what was happening—let alone how to get the help I needed.

But when I finally visited a perimenopause and menopause specialist, I learned that what I was experiencing wasn’t just normal. It was fixable! With my doctor’s expertise, I embarked on a journey toward hormone happiness, and (guess what?!?) I achieved it! Now, without the threat of hot flashes and mood swings, I can appreciate this era of my life—that’s right, menopause—for all of the blessings it has brought me.

So, why do you ask, am I thankful for menopause? Let me count the reasons:

1. I Feel Younger Than Ever
I am stronger, healthier, and more empowered today at 60 than I was when I was 40! For me—and for the women in the sisterhood who have mastered the fine art of hormone happiness—gone is the archetypal image of the old, cranky menopausal woman. In fact, most of my menopausal friends (and some are even grandmas!) are among the most vibrant, life-filled women I know! They are biking, surfing, and hiking with their grandkids. How awesome is that? Learn how to live younger than ever!

2. The Sex Is Amazing
By now in life, we actually know—and know how to use—our bodies! We are comfortable in our skin and can enjoy our sex lives for the intimate experiences they are. We can even ask for what we want…and get it! Reclaim your sexual empowerment during menopause!

3. I Empower My Daughter
It’s our job to teach our daughters to own their experiences and to value their bodies and health! So I couldn’t have been prouder when my daughter walked into her doctor’s office and demanded to have the proper blood panels taken for fertility testing. She stood up for her health and her happiness. Talk to your daughter about hormones!

4. Freedom Is Mine
I used to dread the day my children would move from home and my husband and I would be left as empty nesters. But then I learned it meant we could do whatever we wanted whenever we wanted! Our schedules—and wardrobes, for that matter—revolved around no one but us! Have your kids flown the coup? It’s time to get naked! Enjoy the benefits of being an empty nester!

5. My Mom Has Become My Friend
Of course I’ve always loved my mom. But it was through menopause that I gained the wisdom and experience to reflect back on my childhood and my mother’s role within it. Only then did I learn to appreciate her for the incredible woman she is. Now she is one of my greatest friends and blessings. Here’s the best thing I learned from my mom!

6. I’m First

To be the woman I want to be, both for the people I love and for myself, I have to put myself at the top of my to-do list. I take care of myself with the same commitment with which I care for my friends and family! Learn how to make healthy aging a priority.

7. I’m Closer to My Husband

My husband walked alongside me during my menopause journey and, because of it, we have grown to understand each other more completely. The result: We are more in love than ever! We have been married for 37 years and still date each other! Learn how to talk to your partner about perimenopause and menopause.

8. I’m Confident
My menopausal journey has given me the most attractive quality around: confidence. I love myself as I am and finally recognize all that I have achieved as a wife, mother, and woman. I’m pretty darn amazing (as are all of you!), and I finally know it so that I can squash down self-criticism for the lies it tells me! Learn the real way to look great in your swimsuit!

9. My Vagina Is Happy

I’m not about to stay hush-hush about my vagina. It’s a beautiful part of me and as such I’ve learned to treat it right, doing everything from taking out the ’ole hand mirror and learning its ways to starring in the Vagina Monologues. Has menopause not been kind to your vagina? Save your vagina with these tips!

 

10. I’ve Found My Purpose

Perhaps my biggest joy, which I owe totally to menopause, is the ability to help educate and prepare women (as well as the people who love them!) for perimenopause and menopause. The only thing better than achieving hormone happiness is helping other women achieve it, too!

If menopause is still on your “hate” list, this is the season to find hormone happiness and start loving menopause for all of the joys it brings! By this time next year, there’s no end to all of the reasons you will be thankful for menopause!

Reaching out is IN!  Suffering in silence is OUT!

After struggling with her own severe menopause symptoms and doing years of research, Ellen resolved to share what she learned from experts and her own trial and error. Her goal was to replace the confusion, embarrassment, and symptoms millions of women go through–before, during, and after menopause–with the medically sound solutions she discovered. Her passion to become a “sister” and confidant to all women fueled Ellen’s first book, Shmirshky: the pursuit of hormone happiness. As a result of the overwhelming response from her burgeoning audiences and followers’ requests for empowering information they could trust, Ellen’s weekly blog, Menopause MondaysTM, was born.

  • David

    Ladies and Gentlemen (yes Ellen has a huge male following too),
    I am so grateful and thankful to have a wife who searches for answers to problems, refuses to simply accept challenges she has faced, found solutions and access to vital information, and has dedicated herself to her family, her friends and the community of her followers!

    • I am thankful, David, that I get to walk through life with your support, encouragement and love!!

  • Leslie Osmon

    Dear Ellen, Thank You for all your beautiful words of Wisdom and guidance through this “Crazy Time”!
    You are truly an inspiration and I feel blessed to have met you!!
    I hope you and your family have a beautiful Thanksgiving and Holiday!
    Love ,
    Leslie (Clarins)

    • Thank YOU, Leslie, for helping us all feel beautiful in menopause and beyond!

  • Ellen – You are an inspiration. Keep staying positive and focused!

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